Fetishism is a disorder of sexual orientation, which is based on sexual attraction to inanimate objects. Without them, the patient cannot achieve complete satisfaction in sex. On the other hand, fetishism is a person’s ability to endow objects with special powers or supernatural abilities. Thus, illness is a mental or conscious dependence on certain things or situations.

The subject of sexual symbolism that attracts the abnormal consciousness of a person is a fetish. It could be: a part of the human body or its secretions (sweat, saliva...), clothing, shoes or even furniture.

The term Fetishism was first introduced in the 18th century by the French researcher Charles de Brosse, who introduced this concept to describe the development of religious evolution. Then the phenomenon of fetishism and its nature began to interest researchers from other fields of science. Later, the phenomenon of anti-fetishism was discovered. It lies in the fact that certain objects (clothing, the smell of a partner) reduce or block sexual arousal.

Fetishism occurs most often in men and is one of the most common sexual perversions.

There are situations associated with fetishism that seem completely ordinary and occur in everyday life: sexual interest in men in high-heeled shoes, stockings or in a woman’s ample breasts; For women, a fetish is a thing that helps her feel safe, or is just a prop. In fact, there can be countless fetishes. And their use is not a disease if it suits both partners.

The only difference between normality and pathology is that the object should be used as a stimulant to achieve sexual satisfaction, and not be an object of sexual interest.

Many doctors believe that fetishism is very deeply rooted in the human psyche and is almost impossible to cure.

Reasons for fetishism

The causes of fetishism remain not fully understood. Almost every person has a certain stimulus to which they react very strongly. It follows from this that all people are born with a predisposition to fetishism.

Some scientists believe that the disease develops in early childhood and directly affects childhood experiences.

The development of fetishism is necessarily preceded by a situation associated with powerful sexual arousal or satisfaction. In contrast, other studies show that the disease begins in adolescence with the onset of adolescent masturbatory activity.

Symptoms (signs) of fetishism

General signs:

Strong and unusual obsessions that significantly interfere with normal sexual intercourse (for example, sexual intercourse in only one position, after drinking a large amount of alcohol).

Fetishists are not able to try new ways of satisfaction, since they are accustomed to associate everything with certain rituals. The disorder prevents them from fully enjoying the pleasures of sex.

Patients perform certain actions in relation to inanimate objects, accompanied by erotic fantasies of a sexual nature.

Over time, the importance of the fetish increases and becomes the main condition for achieving sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

Specific signs of fetishism:

Use of devices intended for tactile stimulation of the genital organs (vibrators).

Addiction to masturbate with your reflection in the mirror. The fetish in this case is one's own body.

The tendency to dress in costumes of one's own gender, but appropriate to a different time, social class, culture, etc.

Sexual arousal from wearing clothing belonging to another person of the same sex.

A penchant for role-playing games.

Patients may experience an attraction to various deformations of the human body (cripples, overweight).

It is possible to be sexually attracted to people of a different skin color.

Arousal can be caused by the partner's scent (natural scent produced by the skin or artificial perfume scents).

Love for shoes and props made of leather.

When should you see a doctor?

Most sexologists believe that fetishism is very difficult to cure, and in some cases impossible, since, basically, patients turn to a sexologist for only one purpose - to change or diversify sexual relationships with a partner. Many people, as a rule, are ready to accept the illness of a loved one. Such couples often do not want to see a sex therapist. Or they come only to receive confirmation that there is nothing wrong in their partner’s behavior. Patients often choose a life partner who agrees with their sexual interests. In such cases, fetishism is relatively safe.

But there are situations when a partner obsessively follows specific rituals and this is a serious problem. There is no need to try to “treat the sick with your love”; it is better to seek professional help. In this case, psychotherapy is most effective.

If your partner’s fetishism is not acceptable in a relationship, is dangerous for others, or is illegal, timely help is needed. Sometimes fetishism occurs together with severe personality disorders or mental illness. Then, loss of satisfaction from sex is just one symptom of serious psychological problems that require appropriate treatment.

Fetishism is a complex sexual dysfunction that borders on narcissism and transvestism.

The diagnosis of fetishism is made based on a detailed history of the patient or through direct observation of him.

Treatment of fetishism

Most patients with fetishism do not seek professional support, since for them it is something personal and intimate. In turn, society is showing more and more tolerance towards people who are fetishists, thereby reducing the already minimal demand for treatment.

There are dangerous forms of fetishism (necrophilia - love for the dead, coprophilia - sexual interest in everything related to feces, masochism - beatings) and the only way to avoid this is to consult a doctor in a timely manner. Therapy helps control sexual desire and, in some cases, extinguish it.

Types of psychotherapy for fetishism

Behavioral therapy- the specialist explains how to replace unusual (unreasonable) behavior with erotic fantasies and develop imagination. Therapy has limited success.

Aversion therapy– in response to sexual interest in the fetish, another stimulation is introduced (shock therapy), thus giving dreams a negative connotation. This type of medical care is characterized as aggressive.

Reorientation Method– aimed at rebuilding the patient to “normal” sexuality.

Group psychotherapy or psychoanalysis- suitable for patients who are able to control their sexual impulses. Helps to acquire more skills in fighting the disease.

The prognosis in the treatment of fetishism is most often not favorable, since most patients have no desire to change anything in their lives. In most cases, therapy does not work.

But the personal prognosis for a person with fetishism is quite good if the disease does not affect other areas of his life and does not pose a physical danger.

Prevention of fetishism

The origin of some fetishes is random associations between a specific object or situation and sexual gratification. There is no way to predict where or when this relationship might occur. This means that there is no prevention of the disease.

Psychiatrist Kondratenko N.A.

An object that, according to the believer, symbolizes the spirit or is its container. For its owner, a fetish personifies the spirit and connects a person with the world of supernatural forces. Usually these are dolls or carved figures, but they can also be a tooth of an animal, a snake's vertebra, a beautiful stone, or even huts where the sorcerer communicates with otherworldly forces. Fetishes were widely used in animistic religions. They were often worn as decorated talismans or amulets, but they were not fetishes in the traditional sense, since they were not inhabited by spirits.

The word fetish comes from the Latin factitius - “artfully made thing” or the Portuguese feitico - “amulet, magic”. The word is usually associated with the West African juju, which means "sacred object". Juju may have been derived from a European interpretation of the local expression "grou-grou" or related to the French "joujou", meaning "doll" or "toy". In ancient times, European traders on the coast of West Africa mistook fetishes, which were sacred objects, for simple toys. A derivative of "grou-grou" is "gris-gris", a modern designation for an amulet or talisman that brings good luck or protects against misfortune.

ANCIENT EGYPTIAN FETISHES

The ancient Egyptians in pre-dynastic times professed an animistic religion and had many gods and goddesses of fetish origin. They were mainly associated with magic, luck, health and life, fertility and sexual potency. Egyptian animism was a derivative of magical cults, as well as the worship of animals, birds and trees, totemism and fetishism, which made it possible for higher spirits to evolve into gods.

African-American FETISHES

Africans captured by slave traders brought their fetishes with them to the New World. However, their possession was called torture or death. These fetishes not only personified gods other than Christian ones, but also embodied tribal customs, which instilled fear in white slave owners. Eventually, slaves began to carry pebbles or small bags filled with herbs or oil, hoping with their help to find good luck and protect themselves from all sorts of misfortunes. Most African American amulets today serve the same purpose.

In New Orleans, the traditional center of American Vodouism, many residents, including some police officers, wear similar amulet bags.

Legends about the famous New Orleans priestess Marie Laveau say that her talismans contained pieces of bones, cemetery soil, salt and pepper. More advanced amulets were made from tiny birds' nests or woven from horsehair. A red flannel pouch containing lodestone or lodestone was a favorite amulet among gamblers, convinced that it brought good luck.

In Santería, amulet bags were called resguardos, which meant “protecting.” A typical talisman, placing its owner under the protection of the thunder god Shango, was made of red velvet and filled with herbs, spices, sugar, aloe and other ingredients, and then sewn up with red thread. The finished talisman was then attached to a tiny golden sword, the symbol of St. Barbara. Shango identified with this Catholic saint. And if the sword broke, Shango stood up for the owner of the amulet.

Fetishes are part of the traditions of many North American tribes. According to the customs of some of them, fetishes are individual in nature, while among others they are considered to be collective. For example, the Crows and Dakotas have fetishes for imaginary communities, and the Socs and Foxes from Wisconsin worship ancestral fetishes. Among the Pawnees of Nebraska, each settlement has its own fetish.
A very developed tradition of fetishism existed for centuries among the Pueblo tribes and, in particular, the Zuni tribe, among whom fetishes were most common. Zuni fetishes are figurines of animals, birds and reptiles, carved from stone, carved from horn or made from shells.

According to the Indians, they possessed enormous magical power and were used only for religious worship... Hunters carried them in leather bags hung around their necks...
Some fetishes personified the Gods.
For medicinal purposes, the Zuni had many fetishes depicting animals. The Acoma Indians used the Mother Corn fetish to treat illnesses... The Zunis exchanged fetishes with the Navajo...

We can talk a lot about the disappeared Atlantis and the manuscripts of India and Tibet. For example: The myth of Atlantis came to us as presented by the Greek philosopher Plato. He spoke about it in two of his dialogues, Timaeus and Critias.
Plato emphasized that this is not a fictional story, but a real country. In his dialogues, Plato mentions the war between Atlantis and ancient Athens, which happened 9000 years BC. Plato draws a clear boundary between the two opponents: they lived on opposite sides of the Pillars of Hercules (in the Roman version of the Pillars of Hercules) (the current Strait of Gibraltar, separating Europe from North Africa). But Atlandis (even if it is not a myth) could be anywhere, from the Bahamas off the coast of Florida, to the areas of Troy, Santorini, India...

The Mayan Indians, who inhabited the territory of Mexico, Guatemala, Honduras, Belize, and El Salvador between 2000 BC and 1500 AD, created a highly developed civilization and culture and left many mysteries for their descendants. To this day, modern Mayan shamans invoke the blessings of the ancient gods. At the same time, wooden altars symbolize the four cardinal directions, and the cross is the personification of Life... But the Mayans used these symbols 4000 years BC?!

In our time, when open sexual desire is no longer something reprehensible, it is difficult to imagine that we do not know something about sex and its manifestations. And about such a type of sexual behavior as fetishism, it has been known since time immemorial. By definition, a fetish is an object, action, or body part whose real or imagined use is necessary to satisfy sexual needs.

Well, who hasn’t heard about an uncontrollable attraction to women’s legs or shoes, some items of underwear and simply uniforms? We decided to collect sexual fetishes that you didn’t even know existed.

Balloons

People with a passion for balloons experience sexual pleasure from touching them, and some are led to orgasm when the balloon explodes. By the way, perhaps this is explained by the fact that a person produces adrenaline as soon as he hears the sound of a bursting balloon, and together with the agonizing wait, this brings double pleasure.

Forniphilia

Have you ever wanted to act like a piece of furniture? Forniphiles want. Some, on the contrary, like someone to depict furniture for them. This fetish is one of the traditions of the BDSM subculture. It became especially popular in the 1970s following an exhibition by artist Allen Jones on “human furniture.”

Plushophilia

Probably the cutest and funniest fetish. If we just forget that such people are sexually attracted to soft toys...

Formicophilia

A type of bestiality, only formicophiles are excited by the fact that something disgusting, such as insects, is crawling on them.

Hierophilia

Hierophiles are excited by any interaction with religious objects or even by their contemplation.

Pygmalionism

Remember the myth about Pygmalion’s love for the statue of Galatea he made? So, such people are attracted to any still image of the human body, and they receive sexual satisfaction from possessing this object and touching it.

Crash fetish

A type of sexual pleasure in which arousal occurs when a person of the opposite sex crushes objects, food, or even small animals with their feet (and this already goes beyond the boundaries of a funny sexual addiction). This also applies to watching so-called crash videos.

Kleptolagnia

Have you ever been excited by the thought of being robbed? Then you definitely don't have a fetish called kleptolagnia. People are excited by the fear and adrenaline rush of theft, and if they are also pressed against the wall and their hands are somehow fixed, then it will be even more pleasant for them.

Mascalania

Sexual attraction to the armpits, in which a person experiences pleasure from touching this part of the body, fantasizing about it and smelling it.

Symphorophilia

But this is, perhaps, a dangerous attraction - a person with symphorophilia experiences sexual satisfaction from observing a tragedy or from its direct staging. Moreover, this concept covers such examples as a road accident, fires, bridge destruction and even a tsunami.

Mechanophilia

Everyone loves cars, especially men, but some people love them too much. Mechanophilia includes an attraction not only to cars, but also to motorcycles, trucks, helicopters and even airplanes. A certain Edward Smith once admitted that he had sex with more than a hundred cars. We don’t even want to know what this even means...

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Two years ago this month, I was sitting on my Top's living room couch. It was my birthday and we were going to the gym. “But first,” he said, “open your gifts,” and he placed two packages on the coffee table in front of me.

By that time we had been dating for over a year. At first it was passionate BDSM sessions about once a month; Then the sex games stopped, but we continued to go to the gym together and helped each other lead a healthier lifestyle. In fact, our trips to the gym continue to this day, and I consider him one of my closest friends. He knows what I like - both sexually and in general - better than most people I know, and his gifts are always special.

The first package contained a bottle of Glenlivet twelve year old, one of my favorite single malts. And in the second... Nasty Pig jock briefs. But not simple ones, but with a surprise. I sniffed. This distinctly musky, incomparable smell that only occurs in dark rooms and gyms, where it permeates literally everything. “I wore them for a few days,” he said. “Enjoy it.”

Worn underwear is one of my fetishes.

You might be thinking: what is a fetish, and how is it different from kink? Kink is an “unusual” sexual interest, like bondage or spanking. A fetish can be any object, material, piece of clothing (like those worn-out jocks) - anything that excites you. Moreover, the fetish is not associated with sex in itself, unlike dildos or BDSM paraphernalia such as whips. This is a simple object that becomes a sex object only for the fetishist.

You've probably heard about some strange fetishes: high-heeled shoes, rubber duckies and all that. Recently, many fetishes have become part of pop culture. This list of 35 fetishes - famous and not so famous - will help you understand the topic.

1. Leather

Leather is perhaps one of the most fetish materials, and it is a fetish classic. Thanks to the drawings of Touko Laaksonen, aka Tom of Finland, bikers in tight (very tight) leather pants became strongly associated with gay culture.

Today, there are leather lovers in all countries, and they come together at various events such as the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco, International Mr. Leather in Chicago and Folsom Berlin.

What is such an event like? Imagine a lot of men in leather belts on their naked bodies, jocks, leather jackets, boots, aprons (of course, also leather), in various uniforms - in a word, who knows what. And because the leather fetish goes well with so many other fetishes and kinks, the leather community practically unites the entire kink community.

2. Latex

This is the second most common fetish material; Latex lovers usually share all the fetishes and kinks of leather fetishists - only instead of leather, they have latex. They have their own big events like Mister International Rubber, also in Chicago.

Latex lovers usually wear more covered suits; Harnesses, etc. are less often made from latex, but a good craftsman will also find something to please you with.

3. Ropes

This example is convenient to show the difference between kink and fetish. Not entirely obvious, since in colloquial speech many people use these terms quite freely.

Bondage is kink. Most often, ropes are used to immobilize a partner, but in general they are not the only ones used; Duct tape, leather handcuffs, strings, plastic zip ties, ties, etc. work just as well.

Ropes are a fetish. For many people who are into BDSM, ropes are especially arousing.

Rope is a simple material, and it is more romantic than duct tape, which is immediately associated with the sound of a police siren and a robbery. If you want to be restrained with duct tape, the thought of being gagged and left in a closet for several hours probably excites you. Rope is more suitable for fulfilling youthful fantasies of being captured by lustful pirates who tie you to a mast and do whatever they want to you.

4. Worn underwear

Worn underwear is such a common fetish that famous escort models, porn stars and other famous people in the sex industry usually make good money selling their unwashed panties.

5. Armpits

This fetish is also known as axillism.

It's hard to explain to the common man how an armpit can turn someone on... In our culture, armpits are considered a rather vulgar part of the body, and most people use deodorant, especially before an important interview or date. However, some people find sniffing and even licking their armpits a turn-on.

6. Skateboarders

This fetish almost falls under the category of “uniforms,” but the fact is that skateboarders, punks and other alternative artists do not have uniforms as such. For many gay men, the stereotypical skater image is a fetish: neck tattoos, lip piercings, Diamond Supply Co. tank top. and Vans boots.

7. Uniform

In most countries around the world, people are taught from childhood to respect people in uniform - especially police officers, military personnel and firefighters. As a direct consequence of this reverence for men in uniform, strippers dressed as firefighters and police officers; the shape is a fetish for many people regardless of their orientation.

8. Skinheads

Another popular (albeit less advertised) fetish is guys who are shaved to the bone, skinheads. Typically, this fetish is combined with latex and/or punk or skateboard clothing (see above). In some cases, people shave their heads to show their power or to humiliate them.

Those whose fetish is skinheads often love the so-called. "golden shower" and fisting.

9. Razors

Shaving usually has nothing to do with sex - it's a routine self-care procedure. But for some people, shaving (either themselves or someone else) is an extremely arousing experience.

Actually, shaving as a sexual act should rather be classified as kink. But trimmers, razors and other shaving accessories are fetish objects and deserve special mention. I have personally known guys who are turned on by the touch of an electric razor - they often have to sit in the barber's chair with an inappropriate erection.

10. Urine

This fetish is also known as urolagnia. In this case, the fetish is urine itself, and for obvious reasons these people usually like to pee on their partners (or have their partners pee on them), drink urine, etc.

11. Adhesive tape

Ropes, as you may remember, are the most common bondage fetish. Duct tape is in second place by a small margin.

If you like being gagged, duct tape is your choice. Your fantasies probably involve kidnappings, dark corridors and muffled, almost inaudible screams.

Note: Duct tape is, of course, very sexy, but at some point you will want to take it off and it will hurt. As a more humane alternative, I recommend trying a self-locking bandage.

12. Saliva

Saliva is another bodily fluid that is often the object of fetish. In this case, fetishists get pleasure when they spit on their partners, or their partners spit on them. They get a special thrill when they use saliva as a lubricant... and even drink it.

13. Gas masks

A classic fetish that has almost disappeared from pop culture these days.

Gas masks originated in the trenches of World War I, when chemical weapons were heavily used by all sides, and remained relevant throughout the early years of the Cold War. Today they can only be seen during mass protests, when the police use tear gas. In this regard, gas masks became rebellious paraphernalia; In addition, graffiti artists use them to avoid breathing in toxic paint. The image of a rebel and the irreconcilable spirit of freedom filled the old fetish with new meaning.

Gas masks are used in asphyxia kink (erotic strangulation) and often complement latex fetish.

14. Food

Do not confuse this fetish with eating aphrodisiacs such as oysters and chocolate. Absolutely any product can be a fetish, from cheesecake to Tatar meat. Moreover, it is not even necessary to eat it to satisfy the fetish.
If you can't imagine how food can be a fetish, try using chocolate sauce, honey, whipped cream and M&M's during sex next time.

15. Foot fetish

Many people are aroused by feet: looking at them, touching them, licking them, massaging them and tickling them. They love to be penetrated with toes - anally or vaginally. When mentioning a foot fetish, many people also remember the shoe fetish, but formally they are not connected in any way. Many men love to smell, lick and touch shoes, shoes or boots (personally, I love licking the leather boots of Top men, but this is more of a manifestation of submissiveness, rather than a real fetish).

16. Hands

I was hugging a guy recently and my compliment seemed very strange to him. I said, "You have very sexy hands." His brushes were small, smooth and strong. In other words, ideal hands for fisting. But in fact, this fetish has nothing to do with fisting (kink, when the entire hand is slowly inserted into the anus or vagina using a very large amount of lubricant).

Many people are simply turned on by their hands: how they look, how they are shaped, how they feel and how they feel when touched.

17. Amputees

No list of fetishes is complete without amputees. My ex-boyfriend thought guys with amputated arms, prosthetic legs, etc. were sexy as hell. Every morning, just in case, I checked to see if he had cut anything off for me.

Alex Minksy basically owes his career to this fetish. A veteran who lost his leg became an inspiration for Los Angeles photographer Michael Strokes. Just in case, I will clarify that “fetishizing” amputees is not at all the same as cutting off people’s limbs for sexual gratification. The latter is already kink, and so hard that the international kink community does its best to disown it.

18. Medical fetish

Anything related to doctors and medical supplies (such as dilators and catheters) is so often the object of a fetish that it has become its own genre of pornography. You've probably seen it: a doctor wearing surgical gloves examines a patient using the mentioned objects, and under the medical gown the doctor is clearly naked.

19. Weapons

Weapons are considered a phallic symbol and they give power over other people. So is it any wonder that weapons often become a dangerous fetish? There is a huge amount of kidnapping and staged rape porn where guys and girls are "forced" to have sex at gunpoint.

In case this article catches the eye of the director of such a movie, I will note: when the “victim” begins to give a blowjob to a gun, it looks monstrously absurd.

20. Enemas

This fetish is often used in amateur gay porn, and straight guys are generally not far behind. This device helps clean the anus, so it is used by everyone who loves anal sex without unpleasant surprises. In addition, many doctors claim that doing an enema from time to time is good for your health.

It is only natural that the enema became associated with sex.

21. Diapers

A fetish for “adult children” is difficult to distinguish from the common kink where adults act like babies or small children (usually wearing a diaper to satisfy this kink).

A question of terminology. If you like wearing diapers, that's a kink. And when diapers themselves excite you, even if you are not wearing them, this is a fetish.

This fetish may be related to the fetish fetish (see point 32).

22. Piercing

For many people, piercing is a fetish. If a person is also aroused by the process of skin piercing, this is one of the varieties of “body modification” kink.

My personal fetish is the Prince Albert - where a barbell is inserted into the head of the penis - but I don't have such a piercing. It excites me, but piercing skin, my own or someone else's, doesn't make me happy. However, someday I will definitely make myself a “Prince”.

23. Scars

Scars are sexy. They bring to mind a battle-hardened warrior, a rugged cowboy, a soldier wounded in battle. Some people are seriously turned on by this, and scars become a fetish for them.

Sometimes people with this fetish deliberately scar themselves, and in general this can be classified as “body modification” kink.

24. Plush toys and stuffed animals

You won't be able to look at your niece's stuffed animals the same way again... Some people are sexually aroused by stuffed animals, and this fetish is more common than you think!

25. Balloons

I myself did not believe that this could be a fetish until I became seriously interested in the issue. It turned out that this really happens. People seem to be aroused by the tense anticipation of the moment when the balloon will burst - they find it very erotic.

26. Socks

Any item of clothing can be a fetish, but socks in this regard confidently take second place after underwear. Just as I love to smell the worn underpants of handsome guys, someone else can be aroused by the smell of other people's socks.

27. Beard (and facial hair in general)

You already know that razors and shaved heads often become a fetish. The fact that a beard can be a fetish comes as no surprise to anyone these days. Modern gays, especially if they themselves do not like to shave, often idealize beards and consider them unusually sexy. Now no one will remember that a beard is actually a fetish too.

28. School

"You behaved badly. You will stay after class and be punished!"

Most of us are familiar with fetishes associated with teachers, desks, rulers, chalkboards and other paraphernalia. There is even a special kink, when all these fetishes are equipped with a special classroom for role-playing games with strict questions and corporal punishment.

29. Blood

Popular vampire novels and the pornographic interest in blood in modern literature and cinema have made blood a popular fetish.

Some kinks (piercing, flagellation, etc.) allow you to enjoy this fetish without any particular health risks, but at the same time there is still a risk of contracting HIV, hepatitis C and other similar diseases. The same rule applies in both everyday life and sex: if you see blood, it means something has gone wrong. Therefore, games with blood (bloodplay) are unsafe and must be taken seriously. The kink community does not welcome sexual practices associated with risks to life and health.

30. Knives

Like a gun, a knife pointed at a person can (and should) cause an acute sense of discomfort, and for many this is extremely arousing. This is an unsafe fetish; Knives, like firearms, must be handled with care.

31. Clowns

Yes Yes exactly. Last night I specifically watched a porn movie with clowns to make sure that this fetish exists.

There is a common view that a fetish is a psychological reaction to something that would otherwise cause us too much disgust. Personally, I cannot say that I am completely satisfied with this explanation. But the fact is the fact: clowns, which our descendants will surely declare one of the most vile inventions of mankind, often become fetishes. And here it is difficult to get rid of the feeling that in this way some are subconsciously trying to cope with childhood fears. The human brain is capable of the most amazing things, including turning pain into pleasure, stress into passion, and fear into excitement.

I can’t say with all certainty that any fetish is just disgust driven into the depths of the subconscious, but I am surprised that clowns have become such a widespread fetish.

32. Feces

I promised my friend from Dallas that I would not ignore the coprophilia fetish. People usually react very strongly to those who derive sexual pleasure from bowel movements. But this fetish is also much more common than you might think, especially among lovers of “dirty” sex, fisting and kink-prone leather lovers.

In general, this fetish is considered extremely unhygienic because touching and ingesting human excrement is not healthy. My limited experience in this matter tells me that it is also one of the most condemned fetishes, even in the kink community.

33. Sports accessories

How many of you have never lusted after a famous athlete? Perhaps your interest in your university's sports team was not entirely innocent. Sports equipment and various sports-related spaces are so often fetishized that “locker room sex” has become its own genre of porn. Popular gay brands like Nasty Pig and Cellblock 13 take inspiration from time-honored sportswear designs, and sweatpants with inviting laces will always be a classic in the gay scene.

34. Mannequins

This fetish, also known as pygmalionism, involves an attraction to dolls, mannequins, statues and other objects that resemble people but are not them. However, I would not classify sex dolls and inflatable toys with the faces of porn actors as this fetish, since these items are specifically designed to cause sexual arousal.

35. Age

Fetishizing a particular age is also known as "chronophilia," and in gay culture it is often discussed (and often condemned). Moreover, this term equally applies to those whose fetish is younger people, and vice versa - to those who are attracted to older people.

For age to be a fetish, it doesn't even require that the age be very different from yours. The main thing is that a particular age should be an exciting factor in itself for you.

Some say that fetishizing age or weight is no different from fetishizing arms or legs, which rarely raises any objections. Others point out that age fetishes, such as skin color and body type, are not fetishes at all. You simply highlight some features of a person for which you lust after him or reject him, and thereby depersonalize him; this is no fundamentally different from racism or body shaming (where people are shamed for certain traits, such as being overweight or having freckles).

The controversy continues to this day. And age fetish deserves inclusion on this list because this example clearly shows how harmless erotic attraction can become a serious topic that influences our culture and society. Anything from air mattresses to ice cream can become a fetish - and our sexual desires will emerge from the narrow framework into which our culture forces them.

But not all fetishes are created equal: there's a fine line between balloon popping and bloodletting, and the same is true for kink. So when you decide to explore what turns you on - and it's worth it, trust me - never forget the motto "safe, sane, willing." And may your birthdays be special too!